How the Homosexuals Saved Civilization by Cathy Crimmins

Author:Cathy Crimmins
Language: eng
Format: mobi, epub
Tags: Non-fiction
ISBN: 9781101142929
Publisher: Jeremy P. Tarcher
Published: 2004-01-02T00:00:00+00:00

The Cult of the Penis and the Deification of the Blow Job

Hey, Faggot:

What is the difference between cocksucking, blow jobs,

and fellatio?

—Unsigned

Hey, Unsigned, “Cocksucking” is what my boyfriend’s good at; “blow jobs” are what my sister gives; and “fellatio” is what my mom does.

—from Dan Savage’s sex column, “Savage Love”

“Swallowing!” says one gay man I know, talking of fellatio. “It’s not like we invented the issue of whether to swallow or not to swallow,” says my friend, “but we definitely brought it more to the attention of the straight world.”

I like to think of the nineties as the Blow-Job Decade, a time when straight and gay trends came together to result in an American obsession with the phallus.

At the very least, it was the period of time when the penis, heterosexual and homosexual, came out of the closet. In 1994 we were all shocked to find John Wayne Bobbit’s pecker at the side of the road; it was only then that the word “penis” began to appear frequently in mainstream newspapers and magazines. Meanwhile, anecdotal reports of middle-schoolers indulging in fellatio became commonplace and appeared in reputable sources such as The New York Times and The Washington Post. The cult of the penis was on the rise.

By 1998, we were all able to read detailed descriptions of President Clinton’s distinctively shaped phallus. It’s significant that our president committed adultery not via ho-hum missionary-position sex, but with abbreviated incidents of fellatio. In fact, the Clinton/Monica Lewinsky scandal redefined sex for Americans. Although the president put his penis in a young woman’s mouth and a cigar into one of her orifices, he at first denied that he’d had sex with her. But by gay standards (and also by many straight standards), what Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky did together was definitely “sex.”

I’ve talked to liberal gay men who see Bill’s penchant for oral sex as reassuringly deviant. One man went so far as to say, “I feel that he is an honorary gay man, in a way.”

The glorification of the penis has long been a gay male thing. Or, at least, “nice girls” weren’t supposed to talk about how a penis looks, tastes, or feels. But thanks to a healthy cross-pollination between gay and straight cultures, women are now freer to objectify the organ, too.

In 1997, I was invited to an Easter-egg-dying party hosted by a gay friend. One of the guests had an advance copy of a film her brother had directed for HBO’s Real Sex show, which featured male strippers with penises more than twelve inches long. It was a strange but very merry party as we decorated our eggs and watched the guys whip out their giant cocks.

Layer upon layer of sexual audience and attitudes was involved.

First, our viewing audience at the party was made up of single men and women, both gay and straight, and of gay and heterosexual couples. Of course, no children were in attendance.

Within the short film we were watching, the audience was African-American women, who frequented the featured strip club in North Philadelphia.

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